Conversations to stop having...

As you go about your holiday celebrations with family and friends the next few weeks, I wanted to leave you with this shortlist of suggested topics to remove from conversations:

  • Whatever diet you (or someone you know) just started... or just fell off

  • Justifications over what you're eating now with all the ways you're going to fix it or "get back on track", in January. You don't have to punish yourself in January for what you eat in December, and you certainly don't have to encourage others to do the same

  • Bodies, size, and weight. Yours or re: someone else.(eg. the weight you gained this year, how fat you feel, how much you hate your body or parts of it, how so-and-so supposedly "let themselves go" or how amazing they look now that they lost weight, etc)

  • What you should or shouldn't be eating. You're an adult, you should be eating whatever your body wants

For that matter, those are topics we'd all be better off swearing off discussing all year long, not just during the holidays.


Because according to multiple studies and surveys (all of them actually), the vast majority (75-95%) of women have some form of disordered and/or thoughts or behaviors around food and their bodies.

And many carry extreme trauma around food, weight and their bodies so conversations like these are incredibly triggering, harmful and painful.

Given how pervasive it is, you will absolutely be spending time around women who struggle with these things over the holidays - whether you know it or not - and you have no way to know how those triggers impact them.

Triggers can cause binge eating episodes, restricting intake (which usually also ends in bingeing) excessive over-exercise, and other self-punishing behaviors along with feelings of self-loathing and shame.

While it's certainly true that we should not feel overly responsible for the feelings or actions of others, we can do our best to not contribute to their suffering and help ensure those around us have happy, healthy holidays by avoiding potentially harmful conversations.

On top of that, you'll be around kids and one of the most common causes of weight & food struggles in adults is having been exposed to excessive food, diet or weight talk as kids.

Protecting our kids and not perpetuating the harmful beliefs that cause body image, weight & food struggles (and trauma) is absolutely vital if we want to raise healthy kids - which we of course do.

What would you add to the list?

Drop your suggestions below and share this far and wide so everyone can have a holiday free from these toxic conversations.



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