An example of what happens when you start relearning to eat what you want
I have to start sharing client comments more often because they make my heart so happy and they so beautifully illustrate not only the power of this work but the fact that changing the patterns we're stuck in with food is absolutely possible for anyone willing to learn how.
This is an example of that.
She also said, after she was done eating, she noticed she wanted a little piece of chocolate.
She just felt like a little piece of comfort food. So she had it, enjoyed it, and moved on with her day.
One piece. And no binge or obsessing over whether she should or shouldn't have more the whole rest of the day.
What a shift!
Often when someone like me is so anti-diet and so outspoken against traditional "healthy eating" messages, I know it can come off as being anti-health or anti-nutrition. I know it can because I've had people accuse me of promoting unhealthy eating.
But that's ludicrous.
I take the stance that I have because I am vehemently PRO health and PRO healthy eating and I see massive problems with the way it's currently being promoted in our culture.
And for more than a decade I've seen the consequences of those problems play out not only in my own life but in the lives of almost every woman I know, not even just my clients.
This is a perfect example of that. This client came to me as a binge eater who was constantly obsessed with thoughts of food, sugar in particular.
Why? Because she had been doing what everyone told her she was supposed to: avoid all the "bad" foods. Cut out all the sugar, etc.
Everything we've been taught about what it takes to supposedly eat healthy is a huge part of what's driving our cultural obsession with weight and food and a huge part of why we overeat or binge.
Which sounds healthier? Continuing to unsuccessfully try to not eat the things "they" say you shouldn't and stay stuck in the cycle of constantly feeling like you're failing and overeating and bingeing as a result?
Or just reconnect with your body and relearn how to eat whatever you want as my clients do?
Well, let's play out the two scenarios.
Before: she would have tried to do what we're always told we're supposed to... "resist the temptation" of the chocolate craving because yanno, sugar is "bad". That may have worked for a couple days, but eventually, she would have finally caved and eaten more than she wanted. That would have caused judgment, stress and shame for eating the "bad" thing, she'd have promised herself she wouldn't have anymore, and then binged on stuff that made her feel like crap the whole rest of the day and gone to bed feeling sick, stressed, resentful and angry. Repeat multiple times weekly for the rest of her life.
Now: She knew the chocolate was there and she could have as much as she wanted. This is the permission element in action. Because she wasn't trying to restrict herself from eating it, and instead was using her energy to connect with what her body wanted and needed, she realized what she wanted was a meal that would help her body feel its best. Then, still connected to herself and what she wanted, knowing she could then have all the chocolate she wanted, she realized, she felt like a little piece and gave herself that. Then satisfied, happy, and feeling great she went on with her day, approaching every other meal the same way.
Just that simple.
One way is genuinely health-promoting and life-affirming, the other is most certainly... not.
The truly health-promoting, life-affirming way is what I'm going to teach you when you join the CEA.
The sooner you join, the sooner you can start feeling better and experiencing shifts like that. 😉
EMBODIED COGNITIVE EATING TRAINING CAN HELP YOU
The Academy is a specialized group coaching course. It combines a wide range of scientifically proven, evidence based modalities into an easy-to-follow step-by-step process that helps you understand why you can't stop eating in ways that don't serve your best interests and how to stop. It has been meticulously crafted and tested for almost three years with one goal in mind - helping you move past all the things that are keeping you stuck repeating the same self-destructive patterns so you can find peace and start living and feeling better.